As a teenage girl, I’m usually a pretty affectionate person. I fully believe hugs are the remedy for everything, I love cuddling, and it warms my heart to see lovebirds holding hands at the restaurant table next to me.
Recently, however, I’ve noticed that many high school teenage couples are taking the PDA thing a little far. For example, let’s walk through a typical day at school: in the morning, I see one couple pressed against each other, whispering against the lockers and calling each other pet names. During first period, another couple is holding hands (laced fingers and palm rubs included) on the desk right in front of the teacher. Then couple number three is kissing in the stairway as I walk to the cafeteria, where I find a girl sitting on her boyfriend’s lap as they feed each other popcorn chicken and home fries.
I understand that couples in love (or infatuation) want to be close to each other, and that teenage hormones are hard to fight away. But the school building is not the proper place to steal a few kisses and canoodles; teachers, for one, don’t want to see that, and honestly, do you really want to clue them in on your personal life? I certainly don’t want the person grading my exams to see me as the girl who can’t keep her hands off her boyfriend for long enough to focus on her work.
And teachers aren’t the only people who are uncomfortable when witnessing such romantic displays. Honestly, excessive PDA is anything but classy, and your peers won’t like it much either. Who wants to sit at the lunch table with the lovey-dovey couple? In my mind, there are definitely a few guidelines you should follow when it comes to taking your romance to the streets.
For one, keep it out of places in which you are supposed to act professionally, especially school. Save the affection for after the bell rings and keep all displays out of the school building. Don’t you think your romantic life should be separate from your studies?
I also vote for avoiding PDA in places where you’re meant to be seen as a mentor, for example, when babysitting or tutoring. Kids who look up to you will be uncomfortable if you’re flirting with your beau while around them, and it’ll make them feel a little ignored.
Third, when you’re out and about, in my opinion, handholding is perfectly acceptable. You can put your arms around each other, you can hug goodbye at a train station, and it’s totally cool to share an ice cream cone after dinner. But I say, try to cut off the PDA there. Don’t start making out in the middle of a party or start giving each other massages in the middle of the park or on the subway. You might end up being the touchy feely couple that people would rather avoid.
Teenage love can be a beautiful thing. But over-the-top PDA? Put a lid on it, please.
Last reviewed Nov 24., 2014.